I said I want a relationship, is my profile so secretly needy that Mr. Or in my case, how come I only attract guys from Berkeley who like Bill Maher and NPR and think that makes them seem smart as opposed to cliched? The Alec Baldwin lookalike still wasn’t over his ex and thought I needed to bathe in his pain. The rich artist still wasn’t over his mother and had unresolved anger issues he thought I would’t notice were toxic. Or the environmentalist’s life was so disorganized there wasn’t even room for him in it. I no longer have true love, but I’ve found a relationship that’s often fun and, thanks to him, I’ve discovered Aimee Mann and Wilco and beaches and….’nuff said.Or like so many men I’ve met, my prospect might be a nice fellow, but all the fruitless searching and resulting loneliness have left him with a patina of disillusionment; he has lots of crazy dating stories but a famished soul. I’ve dipped my foot into the polluted waters, but remain essentially alone.
Do any of us remain adults when we enter the dating arena? When we go online we are looking for reflections of ourselves; we are looking to see what we reflect back.An old friend recently attracted the perfect guy on Plenty of Fish.He was smart, uber successful, thoughtful, and really into her. And as she gushed, and quipped “I don’t stay on the market for long,” what I heard her saying is “Look who I can attract.Weber calls this model a "shared identity" -- meaning each partner is their own person, but they're open and willing to share and compromise for the sake of the union.There's a sense of maturity that goes along with this commitment.Or do a greater percentage of damaged meat popsicles go online; whereas, us lithe, evolved yoginis have simply given up, retreating to Netflix, and, you know, retreats. Why is grown up dating a visit to the dump complete with flesh-eating zombies when we all know cool single grown ups?
Does dating bring out our inner insufferable teenagers such that we’re all reliving our insecurities through the mating process?
The next four years will be some of the best and most significant of your life.
The major you select will pave the road to your dream job. And the people you date will shape the relationships you cultivate in adulthood.
The single women I know are lovely and clever and flexible (we’re all yogis).
The male dating pool can’t all be comprised of discounted, long expired cold cuts.
I must be pretty special.”After I realized that being alone can make us feel defective in the myopic eyes of society, I wanted to drop kick her. Her Prince High Tech turned out to be a professional con man.