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What they don’t realize is, they have a right to a life of their own.Parenting is supposed to be a time-limited function and we are not suppose to nurture our own parents.
Number three, unfortunately, you can’t really make up for past love-life disappointment by getting an adult person to ‘parent’ you.From then on it becomes a matter of gaining personal freedom and owning your own love-life. If his marriage survives his separation from his mother (guilt), he and his wife will be able to have more of the marriage they dreamed of. We are supposed to sink that love we have inside into our own lives. In my experience, once sons in this trap start feeling bad and looking for a way out, this idea of having personal choice and rights has the potential of putting a pretty healthy fire in their bellies. The dysfunction often shows up the clearest in their relationships with others.
A narcissistic mother’s marriage (worse if she doesn’t have a husband) often suffers when unhealthy triangles dominate her love-life.
It’s healthier to heal the hurt as loss and learn how to make the best life for yourself with mature forms of love as an adult person.
The son’s efforts to ‘make peace’ between his wife and his mother while walking the ‘line’ between them is quite demanding.
He’s bound to do a lot of fire fighting and repair work.
If his wife is temperamental and expressive he’ll certainly have his hands full.
What often happens is the narcissistic mother and her husband get to ‘avoid’ dealing with their marital problems by getting over-involved in other activities and people. For her husband it might be over-work, another woman, or simply emotional withdrawal.