Dating site for quiet people
But the simple truth is that messaging on the internet is nothing more than a fact-finding mission.You can gather information about the other person, but until you meet them you won’t know if ‘I love to laugh’ means Fawlty Towers or fart jokes. It’s easy to think you know a person better than you really do.
What’s more, you have no way of telling which bits of information are true.You can ‘get to know’ someone from behind the safety of a screen.But a recent study by the University of South Florida suggests that – while a short period of messaging is fine – we actually shouldn’t wait too long to arrange a meeting.Thankfully, the window isn’t too terrifying (no one is saying that you have to slurp coffee in the first 24 hours).No, according to American researchers, the tipping point comes between 17 and 23 days after the first message is sent.What’s more, a study by dating site e Harmony, estimated that seven in ten couples will have done so by 2040 – with 55 to 64-year-olds experiencing the biggest boom (an expected 30 per cent rise between 20).
Of course, exchanging a barrage of emails – even phone calls or Skyping– can seem more secure.
But in all likelihood, you’re probably going to have a drink with someone who just doesn’t do it for you. I recall a friend excitedly going off for a first date with a chap - ‘I just have a good feeling about this one, he’s an academic you know’ - only to discover he was a librarian who spent the entire meal talking about dust jackets.
The sooner you can assess whether those online sparks translate into real-life chemistry, the better.
It feels a bit more intimate.” Of course, if you’re nervous, there are other things you can do to speed up the getting-to-know-you process.
One friend tells me that, if she has a positive feeling about someone, she gives them the details of her Facebook account and switches to messaging them away from the dating site.
Their first date was within that all-important window, of course (although he didn’t realise it at the time).