Dating stages in new relationship
So take your foot off the accelerator and let a man initiate his interactions with you.
The trick in this stage is to take the pressure off the future and enjoy getting to know him, while also being clear that you are evaluating your future together: “I’m happy with you and I want to keep dating, but the future’s important to me, too.So let’s see how we feel about things over the next few weeks or months (set a time here you feel comfortable with), and we’ll decide if there’s something more serious that we both want.”When you say this to a guy, there’s an unconscious button that’s pushed in his mind that tells him that you are a respectable and desirable woman who has the ability and the strength to pick and choose what happens in your life, and he better rise to the occasion.By focusing on having fun and getting to know him during the first two stages, you’ve taken the pressure off of him, and he can naturally relax into the relationship. Oh my god, you listen to Sixpence None The Richer's "Kiss Me" unironically, too??? This weird EDM song that's mostly just beeping sounds with a foghorn playing over it? I'd be lying if I said that the fact that you brush your teeth using only baking soda wasn't confusing and strange, but I still like you a lot, so who cares? Before a man chooses whether or not to commit to you, you’ll need to move through a couple of key stages with him. Here, Christian Carter fills you in so you know what to expect…and tells you how to make the most of each stage so he’ll want to keep moving the relationship forward.
It’s natural for you to want to know that things are progressing in a relationship, but talking about it before a man is ready can often prevent the closeness you want.
That’s because the Convincer is the one who makes sure you spend time together and who pursues the Resistor.
If you are the one doing the convincing, you do not create the space to see if HE will step forward and pursue YOU. Your “resistance” will also inspire him to want to pursue you, rather than resist progress in your relationship.
I mean I only loved you, like, a little bit anyway. But seriously, please don't leave me, I've already imagined our wedding and you are so great I could cry.
And I should just stop overthinking every millisecond of our courtship so I can actually enjoy the fact I've found someone remarkable?
That one thing you do is really weird and I'm not completely into it.